mom outfit and why our kids aren't on the internet

striped pleated top
striped pleated top

striped pleated top

striped pleated top

striped pleated top

top : STRIPED PLEATED TOP {currently on sale for $41} // jeans : SKINNY RIPPED HIGH WAISTED JEANS // shoes : BLACK SUEDE SNEAKERS // bag : GUCCI MARMONT BAG 

I try to keep my life private.

A strange thing for a 'blogger' to do since this community has turned over sharing into a new way to make an income for 'stay at home yet share everything' moms. You can literally monetize your precious moments. Hashtag, thank you Internet!

I digress...

I try to keep my life private. Not because I think that I am at a risk for something bad to happen or I think I am too cool. I think we live in an era of over sharing and I often wonder of the long term repercussions of this time. What will we look back and think? What will presidential campaigns look like for the generations that have lived their lives out completely on their parents' social media channels? And furthermore, what are the health risks??? I constantly think about eye and vision health, overall stress levels and cancer being on the rise due to this over abundance of technology in our faces and on our minds.

So many times I catch myself enjoying a magical moment and stopping myself, wondering where my phone is to capture the moment...to share on social media. So many precious moments of the past year have gone by in the blink of an eye and I have one thought for the moments I captured and one thought for the moments I didn't: they still happened anyway and they were awesome. The moments that I treasure most, are the ones that I didn't document: Being home in our own bed with Leo 24 hours after having him, sitting in the hallway of our home the other afternoon while Leo was playing with Madrid's clothes hanging on the door, both kids playing in our bathroom in the mornings... The moments are endless. There are also endless moments that I don't remember at the drop of a hat, but come back to me when I look over my photos.

Because we don't share our children's faces and identities on the Internet {trust me, I have ticked off more than a few friends with this request!}, I feel like it is a personal reminder to enjoy real life and take a photo memento for my personal enjoyment. The idea of keeping our children off the Internet stemmed from us 1. not liking the Agreement of Use of many websites we all use and 2. the iPhone is not very old. The children that have been exposed to the iPhone and all that it comes with aren't even in the middle of grade school. We truly don't know or understand the repercussions that this over sharing entails.

My original argument to my parents, who were about to become first time grandparent, was simply privacy. There is a {couple} bloggers that I follow, joyfully, willingly and love them sharing their daily lives with their children. Yet, I haven't personally meet them. I would be able to pick their children out of a crowd, knowing their name, their last vacation, what they had for dinner...not to be being stalker, but for simply scrolling through my feed.

THIS BY NO MEANS IS ME PASSING JUDGMENT, thinking I am better than those that do share, or even thinking less of you if you do share every cute mom detail of life. Trust me, I have countless photos taken a day that are beyond adorable that I would love to share, but I don't because I want a little privacy.

I just worry that life is passing all of us by with our faces in our phones.

Don't forget! Moms, all of us, even the bad ones, are trying our very very best. No mom wakes up in the morning and thinks to herself, "I'm going to do a really bad job at this 'mom' thing today." We are all making the decisions, implementing the life and holding true to our convictions that we think will make the best life for our families and children

So, while you might think that I am being over judgmental, self righteous or hypocritical, take this over sharing post as a reminder to enjoy the real life moments that are happening all around you and put your phones down.

photos by Asha Bailey


first year as a family of 4

^ after Madrid's first day of school, hugging her brother

^ about 23 hours old

^ Leo's first birthday party

^ meeting for the second time but the first time at home

A letter to my perfect children,

It has been a complete year of our lives, complete thank you to you two. I never imagined I could be so happy, so exhausted, so exhilarated, so blessed, so patient, so overwhelmed, so complete. I wish I could bottle up the euphoria that I felt laying in my own bed roughly 24 hours after having Leo, hearing Madrid and dada playing in the hall, thinking I have never ever been so happy. But it has gotten better over the last 12 months.

Y'all are each so special, so kind, so happy, literally walking angels that we have been so blessed to be guardians of. I don't know how I am so lucky. If you only knew how much I love you, you wouldn't believe it and you will never know. I wrote this in Madrid's journal when she was born, but I totally still feel the same way: you will never know how much I love you because when you have your own children, you will think that there is no way that I loved you as much as you love them.

You both make me a better person, teach me life lessons each day and show me a new side of this glorious life. Whether it be seeing things for the first time or making each other laugh in the back seat, you complete my life each and every moment, especially on the tough ones. I love getting to relive the fun discoveries with Madrid taking her older sister role very seriously, always pointing out things to Leo, always showing him what she likes and always asking if he likes things too. My current favorite is telling Leo "it's Ok. We're almost there," when we get in the car.

You both make me so happy and I am excited to see you grow. I always tell you you are each others' best friends and I can't wait to see you go through life with each other by your side. There is no greater gift that I could give you besides my undying love and support and a sibling for each other.

This past year was full of every emotion under the sun, many challenges, some low lows and every high highs. I hope for each of you that the highs are extremely blissful and long and the lows aren't that low and are very short lived. I love you both beyond words. You both make our family complete. You make me proud and I love you both. Happy First Year.



momma wants a new bag...

black ysl bag

navy ferragamo bow bag

I need a new handbag like I need a hole in the head.

I could honestly get rid of 10 and we would still have an issue of me having too many. BUT...it is that time of year, yet again {my birthday} and I have been looking for something to spoil myself with and I have inevitably settled on shoes and bags. Original, I know. 

I stumbled upon this CHLOE MARCIE CROSSBODY on sale and thus it is at the top of my list. {here in cognac, here in nut brown, here in black}. But I can never deny a navy grosgrain ribbon, so this VARA MINI BAG is also on my wish list {and again, it is on sale!}. Below are more of my finds and I can't pick a favorite! I imagine this one will be good for the upcoming Coldplay concert and grubby mom days , whereas this one has been on my mind since falling in love with it last summer in Bergdorf Goodman while in New York City {but on that trip, I had already purchased this one while on a "walk." oops!}.

My indecisiveness makes me think none of them and to just get these nude scalloped flats instead. Oh the dilemmas of a spoiled birthday girl. 


mommy monday

best baby toy

This walker always get top rated for toddler and baby toys. It was the first noise making and plastic toy that Madrid got and we still love to watch videos of her carefully pulling herself up and then very cautiously using it to get around and then carefully sitting down when she got to her destination. Even when she was a confident walker, she would love to use it to stroll around the house. This keep Leo, at almost one, entertained for longer than most toys. Being all boy, he is on the move and not cautious like his sister! 

This is something that I always recommend to people who ask for gifts for babies about one year old. Even if you know a baby who is walking, all babies seem to love this. As you can see, both kiddos, Madrid almost 3 and Leo almost 1, love this toy and playing together!

navy puffer vest and striped tee

This vest is something that I post about every fall. I have a couple in my closet and wear them daily in the fall and winter as they are the perfect Southern California winter layer. I love them over workout gear, cashmere, chambray...the options are endless. Every year they include new colors, like this year's FLORAL EXCURSION VEST, which makes last year's styles cheaper {found here}. I have navy {in two styles. insert eye roll emoji here}, and herringbone. This year I am eyeing this Bordeaux color {$39} thinking it will be a perfect mom uniform with my favorite workout leggings in the same color. 

This is always my fall must have and I cannot recommend it to readers enough! 

sonix sunglasses

This brand of sunglasses I found SONIX SUNGLASSES during the Nordstrom sale and I literally am their biggest fan now! I love this company's phone cases but these sunglasses are amazing! I got these two pairs and love the look of them, get a ton of compliments on them {even my husband, who doesn't love or understand my sunglasses obsession, said he likes these ones} and the price point is on point. 

All moms now that sunglasses are a life saver for those days you don't quite have enough time to put on a simple coat of mascara or had a teething baby the night before. Plus, sunglasses are something I always recommend to give a closet a spruce up or when you are itching for something new but need nothing. 

white nike selfie

As seen on all our hiking Insta Stories from our end of summer trip to Sun Valley, these WHITE NIKE SNEAKERS are my workout mommy must have! I don't really know what I was thinking when I packed a brand new pair {...actually, I was thinking of a cute travel selfie that I totally forgot to take once dealing with kiddos at the airport} but they got trashed on all our hikes and morning runs. I ordered another pair before we even got home even though I have a similar style already. What can I say? I really like these shoes and that the white looks good with all workout clothing, especially my favorite navy leggings {tired of hearing about these yet?!?}. And if you are into the athleisure look, they are cute with just about everything. 

I do feel like white sneaks are on trend right now, even though we are well past Labor Day and I can already imagine mommy ready outfits with puffers vest and workout gear with clean white sneakers, even on the days that I don't get a workout in. I like to wash mine by spraying a stain remover and throwing them in the washing machine with my whites. I also do that with Leo's white sneakers


Instagram Lately

mom peplum outfit

This top is working overtime. I wore it yesterday too. 

eyelet peplum top

The mix of this sweater is perfect for mom playdate and preschool drop off. Plus, you know that I love a great peplum.

white daisy top

All white from our trip to Sun Valley to watch the eclipse. 

white ruffle sneakers

My blog photographer is just too good and I had to share this photo from an upcoming outfit post. Plus, I love these sneakers and wanted to show them off before Labor Day. {I just found them here in blush pink!}

The best BEST workout legging. I have them in navy three times: twice in 7/8 length and once in the capri. Promise, better than lulu. The fabric is like butter but you don't feel naked or not held in. THE best legging. {They have an amazing return policy too! You can wear them for a workout to give them the ultimate test and still return them if they aren't for you. #notsponsored I am just in love with these leggings and wanted to share! Asking for a couple of pairs of the fall ready burgundy color for my birthday.}


navy tweed

navy tweed jacket outfit
high waisted jeans outfit

navy tweed jacket outfit

navy chanel wallet on chain

tweed jacket outfit

navy ferragamo flats

high waisted jeans outfit

navy tweed outfit

This past week was extremely overwhelming.

I just had my daughter last week so I have no idea how is already almost three and has started preschool. Literally... how did that happen. I cried when I saw her cubby at orientation. I cried when I left the room and she was happily playing and had no issue saying goodbye to mom, dad or brother. I cried in the parking lot knowing that I was going to be sending her off to college in the blink of an eye. I know that all moms say on their posts {insert annoying mom blogger voice here} "OMG. hashtag time slow down." BUT... it is totally true. 

My husband and I felt that we were totally in a mom movie during the Parents Only orientation with encouragement to join committees, be Room Mom, fundraising, etc. etc. etc. We love love love our preschool and the families in our class, but I still can't believe we are in this phase of life. I already feel like I am late for class. Cue the nightmares that I still have about showing up to a final completely unprepared. I figured her MONOGRAMMED BACKPACK would make me feel like we are prepared, but apparently not! 

The least I can do is dress the part. If you saw on my Insta-stories, my friends in our class that are also first time preschool moms, were laughing at our cute new outfits and make up first thing in the morning. Other moms that have done this before knew the drill: they showed up in workout gear, comfy, yet cute and looking like they were well prepared. Thank goodness for MY FAVORITE NAVY WORKOUT LEGGINGS {that I have three pairs of: 2 in the 7/8 pants and one in the capri}. 

BUT...this navy tweed jacket is currently 30% off with code MOREPLEASE {more size options here, but not on sale}. So you can dress the part of a cool mom too. 


vivid pink

vivid hot lacquer lipgloss in too cute


Me, like every mom, makes weekly runs to Target. Even with multiple subscriptions of baby items in Amazon and an online shopping addiction that makes the mailman and local UPS driver raise an eyebrow, I still find myself at Target on, at least, a bimonthly basis. Sometimes, {a couple of times lately} it is because it has been too hot for the playground and I needed something random for the house and bananas {not many places have both. You would be surprised}. 

The problem is, my daughter and myself can't seem to make it to the register without having something not necessary but desired in our cart {this lipgloss and ruffle top are from the most recent run}. She convinced me she needed a 'Frozen' water bottle for school and I convinced her, I needed this top and lipgloss for the weekend. Everyone wins.  

I do recommend this new line as the lipgloss isn't sticky or extra 'wet' looking {love a great matte lip} and carries a great pigment. 


mommy monday

I know, I know...not white shoes after Labor Day. But with Leo's closet being only navy, white and gray, and him developing into his little boy personality, I think he looks precious in his white sneakers {just got these TODDLER WHITE CONVERSE SNEAKERS in the next three sizes for him}. The other day, it was too hot for pants, so he was just wearing his new sneaks and a white polo, pulling himself up on everything. Too. Cute. 

baby cashmere

I have a fairy godmother. When I called her to tell her I was pregnant with Madrid, {one of the selected few!}, she immediately sent me this gender neutral cashmere cardigan. We didn't know the gender at the time, and this sweater has been worn my both children endless outings. I will never get rid of it, even with countless holes in it as it was my first baby gift, ever. 

When readers ask for great first baby gifts with a more expensive budget, I recommend this timeless piece. Especially for first borns, every mom will be able to justify keeping their little ones extra cozy in cable knit cashmere!

best chambray shirt

This is one of my closet staples and looks just as good with white denim, dark denim or tucked into your favorite skirt. While I have tried a bunch, this CHAMBRAY BUTTON DOWN and this more fitted style are my favorite ones. 

I remember the first outfit I styled with a chambray button down, I thought I was so cool: Chambray button down, navy puffer vest, leopard scarf, black skinny jeans and black flats. How original...

ferragamo flats mom outfit

These are probably one of the my most suggested splurges when readers ask for timeless pieces in their closet. The SALVATORE FERRAGAMO VARINA BOW FLAT goes with anything from t-shirts to ball gowns and is age appraise for the millennial and the 80 +. I have them in navy and blush and cannot recommend them enough.

As a mom on the go, I am always looking for easy ways to look pulled together in an instant. These flats make me fell like I have it together, even if you can maybe tell that I haven't washed my hair in days. This picture was taken on one of the first mom days with two little ones that I had showered before 10pm and got everyone organized and out of the house in under and hour. I was very proud of myself and documented the moment. McKinley was proud of me too. 

animal ear beanie

I have purchased this hat in every size and multiple colors. My daughter wore her pink one nonstop and I loved the idea of keep her little hairless head warm, while not have to put on a bow to specify her gender. As you know, her wardrobe was and continues to be mostly navy. 

I recently got it in navy and gray for the little prince and recommended it to two mom readers, one with twins! It comes in 14 colors and is the perfect hat for any little mini you have in your life. 


one shoulder ruffle

one shoulder ruffle dress

one shoulder ruffle dress oufit
one shoulder ruffle dress

one shoulder ruffle dress oufit
one shoulder ruffle dress

one shoulder ruffle dress oufit

one shoulder ruffle dress

one shoulder ruffle dress
one shoulder ruffle dress

It is almost a perquisite to being a "blogger," but I like fall most. 

I have said time and time again that layers {cashmere, blazers, etc.} are more becoming on almost anyone than the San Diego uniform {shorts and flip flops. All. Year. Long...}.

When I was younger, I would get so excited when Halloween decorations would first be spotted in the stores as it meant that my birthday {in October} was coming. Now, with my in laws and marriages, there are eleven birthdays between September and November, with seven in October alone. As my family is a big birthday celebrating family {think, lots of dinners and decor, not so much a big party family}, the first signs of fall always made me excited.

Now being a mom, with two little birthdays to add to the mix in the fall, I don't know if excited is the right word. I want to be excited for them for birthdays, as I was always excited when I was little, but do I really want to celebrate the quick passage of time with my two little cuties? I know that we strive to make them independent little humans, but I live for these days of two naps, lots of snuggles and nonstop giggles once 'dada' is home. I always get so weirded out that I have put all my time energy, life, into these monkeys, and they will grow, dream and discover a life all their own that I will only get little glimpses of. 

Basically, I am rude and don't want to share. 

I don't want to share them or their time. I want them to be amazing global citizens, but come back and live with me. I never understood why my parents were less than pleased when I wanted to move to Texas, then New York City then Rome, Italy. I thought they were being unsupportive, but I realize now, being a parent myself, that they might not have wanted to share either. That is why I am so lucky to live in the same city as my in-laws, my parents and my brother and his new wife. I guess the San Diego uniform is worth it...

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